In 2009, before I had children, I set a goal that felt big at the time:
I wanted to run my first half marathon.

And I did!!

I can still picture the finish line. I can still feel it in my body - the strength, the adrenaline, the deep sense of pride as I crossed over.

2 hours, 18 minutes, and 24 seconds.

But what stayed with me even more than the time… was how ready I felt.

Because I didn’t just sign up and hope for the best.

I trained.

I joined a running group. We met regularly, week after week, following a plan that built over time. I knew what distance I was running each week, what pace I was aiming for, and how to support my body along the way.

We talked about everything - shoes, blisters, fuel, hydration. What worked. What didn’t.

I practiced. I adjusted. I learned.

And somewhere in all of that, I built trust in myself.

By the time race day came, I wasn’t wondering if I could do it.
I knew I could.

A couple of years later, in 2011, I found myself preparing for something else entirely.

I was pregnant with my first baby.

And just like so many women, I did what I thought I was supposed to do.
I went to a childbirth class. I attended a few prenatal yoga classes.

I checked the boxes.

But looking back now, I can feel the difference so clearly.

There wasn’t a rhythm to my preparation.
There wasn’t a step-by-step way to build my confidence over time.
There wasn’t ongoing support or a space to ask questions as things shifted and changed.

There wasn’t a place where I could really practice being in my body the way birth would ask me to be.

And then labour began.

17 hours.

It was long. Intense. Emotional.

I chose an epidural early on, and at one point, I was told I was very close to an emergency c-section.

I remember the feeling so vividly…

Tired. Overwhelmed. A bit disconnected from what was happening.

Not because I wasn’t capable, but because I didn’t fully understand how to work with my body in that moment.

For a long time, I reflected on those two experiences.

Running a half marathon…...and giving birth.

And one question kept coming back to me:

Why was I more prepared for the race than I was for my birth?

Because birth asked more of me.

More physically.
More mentally.
More emotionally.

It was longer. It was deeper. It was something I would carry with me forever.

And yet… my preparation didn’t reflect that.

Not because I didn’t care.
Not because I didn’t want a positive experience.

But because no one showed me what true preparation for birth could actually look like.

Now, as a doula, I see this all the time.

Women who care deeply about their birth.
Women who want to feel calm, confident, and connected.
Women who are doing their best with the information they have…

But underneath it all, there’s often this quiet feeling of:

“I don’t feel as ready as I thought I would.”

So they gather information.
They save posts.
They tell themselves they’ll start preparing “soon.”

But what they’re really craving isn’t more information.

It’s a way to feel anchored.

A way to trust themselves inside the intensity of labour.
A way to move with their body instead of feeling like things are just happening to them.

Because birth isn’t something you figure out in the moment.

It’s something you prepare your nervous system for.
It’s something you practice.
It’s something you build a relationship with over time.

If I could go back and sit beside that version of me in 2011, I wouldn’t overwhelm her with more information.

I would give her a rhythm.

A way to come back to her body, again and again.
A way to understand what was happening and why.
A way to feel supported - not just once, but consistently as she moved closer to birth.

And that’s exactly why I created the Confident Birth Method.

Not as another thing to add to your already full plate…but it's a steady, supportive path you can walk one step at a time.

A space where you can:

– Practice in a way that feels doable and grounded
– Learn how your body works in birth
– Build trust in yourself
– Feel supported, seen, and guided along the way

So when labour begins… You’re not searching outside of yourself for what to do.

You already have something to come back to.

If you’re pregnant and you’ve been feeling that pull, that sense that you want to feel more prepared, more steady, more you in your birth, you don’t have to do it alone.

Send me your questions, or book a free consultation if you are curious how this can fit into your birth preparation!

I work with women and couples in person and virtually, and I attend births in St. John's, NL!! I'd love to join you on your journey to motherhood.